Pride and ...more pride

“Pride leads to conflict; those who take advice are wise.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭13:10‬ ‭NLT‬‬

The first Sunday in this year, my husband Nick and I were invited to dinner by a couple we adore. They’re Christian, survived married over 10 years, despite Stage 4 cancer and an ongoing severe chronic illness that threatened both their lives and marriage.

Anyhoo, we hung out for hours chatting about life. When the question came up “How are we doing?”, my husband and I skirted around the hardcore issue with all the nice fluff we had going on. Between him and I, we knew just the night before we were both crippled and distraught in disappointment over our finances. If I’m to be completely honest, He (more than I) like to keep up an appearance that we got our lives under control, especially when it comes to our financial status. Worse since we made a huge bold step 2 years ago for me to stop practicing medicine, giving up that income so I could stay home and raise our children.

Back to the main point, we skirted around until we both almost telepathically knew it’s was time get real and vulnerable. It was time we expose our ugly, embarrassing secret about the mess of situation our finances really was in. We even shared about our dreaded credit cards 😅 But you know what happened? We received no looks of shock, or shame. Instead, we received lots of encouragement as they themselves had been in sticky financial situations having to deal crazy medical bills. But it turned out the husband was quite a money enthusiast, like not just with his opinions, but it was his actual job. He then went on to give us very practical tips on how we could improve our financial situation.

We left that house feeling so refreshed we could bawl! Such light and joy. Just because we decided to put our pride down and be receive advice. Being vulnerable requires a lot of courage, and I’d even add discernment because we don’t want to be sharing our dirt with everyone. I give God thanks for amazing friends, with such godly wisdom and kindness. Might I urge you to consider sharing and praying with someone about something that troubles you. If you know no one who you could meet with, my prayer for you is that God may lead you to persons whom you may be willing to trust and who are kind enough to pour into you.

Sincerely,

Sherona